When I first heard about clit tapping, all I could recall were images of girl-girl porn where women seemed to scream in delight whilst the other performer practically beats on the beautiful bud of nerve endings that make up a clitoris, and frankly it made my panties cringe! My partner (who also happens to have a clitoris) agreed that there was nothing inviting about trying it out… until we heard about a much softer approach.

Porno movies have a lot to answer for when it comes to confusing the hell out of men and women alike, and it’s not about a sexual smackdown on your lover’s poor pussy, but rather a gentle stimulation for her sexy bits; think more morse code than imaginary whack-a-mole! It’s not too complicated to do, it’s simply a soft tap which is repeated either quickly or slowly and gradually building up in pressure to whatever gets you or your partner off. Using a soft double click motion like you would on a laptop touchpad is a good place to start, but depending on how sensitive or aroused her clit is determines the pressure you need to apply.

It can take women up to 25-30 minutes on average to become properly aroused and the genitals to become fully engorged. This technique can help build and heighten arousal without going too hard and potentially losing all that delicious sensitivity. Sometimes the slower the stimulation and build up to climax means much more intense orgasms, which is why some of our bestselling vibrators at Simply Pleasure offer low rumble motors for that very reason.

There are a multitude of ways to stimulate different erogenous zones, and every one of us responds quite differently to each. There’s just no one size fits all when it comes to sex, but it can be really fun to try new things out. For some women, simply rubbing can be too intense, especially at the very beginning of your sex sessions. The action of tapping means that by removing the pressure intermittently it might feel more pleasurable and less overwhelming. So, give that clit a bit of a double tap next time you’re getting down and see how it might differ for you or your partner. Some people have even stated that they can tap their way all the way to the “Big O” on this very motion alone! It doesn’t have to be the only movement you do, and can be combined with rubbing, stroking, or sucking. Like with most things, it can be utilized in a whole host of creative and versatile ways.

With any new toy or technique that you’re trying out, clear communication is key, and the only sure-fire way of making sure what you’re doing is pleasurable and not actually painful. Trying out different numbers of fingers or a thumb, held in different shapes and positions to create larger or smaller surface areas, can result in different sensations. Using an erect penis by gently dropping the shaft on the clitoris or just using the head of the penis can lead to some interesting results for both of you, so go slow and have some fun with it. FYI: Don’t forget about the vulva too, as these lovely lady bits can hold a lot of sensitive nerve endings and can drive your partner wild if they love a little lip tickle!

With the phenomenal success in sales of clitoral suction toys, companies are cleverly thinking of new and exciting ways to turn people on, and tapping is no exception. Fun Factory have released Volta, and its one-of-a-kind shape uses both tapping and thumping sensations to give a unique spin on clitoral stimulation. Better Love have released a product called Tap Dancer, which uses what they have dubbed ‘Tap Pleasure Technology’, featuring a pulsing feel that some have even claimed is better and more consistent than human touch alone! Deia Arouser uses a fingertip sized central part which mimics the sensation of a fingertip, but also comes with ten vibration patterns to allow for a more varied experience. This can be helpful as continuous tapping over a prolonged session can create soreness for some women. So, whichever toy you’re drawn to, give tapping a go first before investing in a product which may not be for you personally. However, if this different way of getting aroused definitely hits the nail on the head, let one of these little beauties take it to the next level and tap that sweet spot for you!

By Tuesday Schumacher-Jones

@twistedtuesdaydesign