Introducing a Vibrator to your partner

If you are looking to purchase a vibrator and you are currently in a relationship, you need to be careful about the way you introduce it to your partner. It is not recommended to just pull out your new toy one night in bed with no warning. For some people it may be a bigger deal than you think it is. For some, they may be offended by the thought of you owning a vibrator and feel inadequate or replaced. Here are some top tips for nice ways of introducing your new sex toy:

Tell your partner your thoughts before buying – By bringing it up in conversation and discussing the reasons behind your thoughts will help you partner to understand and feel more comfortable about it all. Communication is one of the most important aspects of a relationship and it is vital to ensure you understand each other.

Purchase the vibrator together – By choosing one together, your partner will feel part of the decision and less like this is a replacement for them. There is a huge variety of vibrators available from g-spot vibrators to waterproof vibrators. If you choose one together you can discuss the ways in which you wish to use it and choose an appropriate one. Using vibrators together can be more rewarding than using it on your own as it is enjoying watching your partner enjoying themselves.

Be prepared – If you are planning to use it together then make sure it is out and ready to go when you need it. It can be a great turn off if you stop mid foreplay and fumble around for 20 minutes getting it out. It also allows time for your partner’s reservations to build up and may put them off altogether. It is also handy to have lubricant ready to use when needed!

Reassure whilst enjoying yourself – For some people, using a vibrator with their partner will be unknown territory so it is vital that you reassure them you are still enjoying yourself. Whether you are using it on yourself in front of your partner or they are using it on you, you need to show them how much fun you are having. Telling them that you are really enjoying yourself and how good it feels will boost their confidence and help them to appreciate using it. It can be a good idea to show your partner how you like to use it before and then let them have a go. This will ensure they use it in a way that is good for you and will also reassure as they will know what they are doing.

Make sure it is an addition not a replacement – Vibrators are great fun and can make the experience of sex with a partner even more intense. However it should not replace all sexual interaction. It is not a good idea to use it every time but maybe save it for a special occasion.

Obviously vibrators are enjoyable and stimulating but you need to make sure your partner realises they are still important...after all a vibrator does not give you hugs and kisses at the end of the day!